Fun times! Hubby is working this weekend and I am stuck home alone with the kiddos watching reruns of cops! WOW! BORING! THANK GOD next weekend is a away weekend in Orlando for us or I would scream right about now!
I haven't blogged in ages. Not a lot of new stuff going on in the swing world. Wish it were.... things are slow and at a hold right now with our current couple. Not really sure what is going on with them. Last weekend we went out to a local bar to listen to a band. This band brings a lot of people who are in the lifestyle out to their venues because they themselves are in the lifestyle. Actually tonight most of our group are out listening to them in another town.
Last Saturday was fun. Met a few new couples. One thing I love about the lifestyle is that everyone seems to get along. The men can all bullshit together and the women can talk like they have known each other for years. There is very little if any catiness between the members of the groups. It was nice even though we had no playtime with anyone =( to get out and meet people in our area in the lifestyle.
One topic up for discussion is bi/girl on girl play. I consider myself straight. Up until know I have always put that label on myself. About a month ago I did some experimentation with one of our friends. I do not find her overly attractive but we get along well. We did some dirty dancing, some kissing and played with a double dildo together. I have to say a woman knows how to touch another woman, much better then most men but the whole idea doesn't get me overly excited.
Almost all the women in the lifestyle are bi sexual. They love girl on girl play and that is what most of the playdates are for. I really really really want to find some couples with the straight female! I think we will have better luck finding couples to play with that way.
Another random thought going on in my head- already, this early into our experiences with the lifestyle, I am seeing how much I prefer the lifestyle people over the vanilla people. Why you may ask? This is the simple reason:
There is a lot of drama with vanilla people. People get overly offended over EVERYTHING! And I mean EVERYTHING! They judge often and well you just can't talk to them life lifestyle friends. Last Saturday when we were out we were talking to another couple whohave been in the lifestyle for decades now. He is in his late 40's and he made two comments. 1) they ditched all vanilla friends and 2) you'll never see fights between lifestyle people. Why? Because men and women fight about jealousy issues. There simply is none in this way of life. Its great!
So many random thoughts! So little time....
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Rainy Tuesday....
Not getting much done today because of the rain here in South Florida. ICK! Very excited today though. That couple we messaged about meeting up with is up to meeting again. Super super excited about that. They are a soft swap couple but we have a good sense that they will become good good friends of ours.
My husband told me a story about something that happened to him last night. He came across a lady who said she was angry. She was in a hurry to get home because she got a call from her friend. Her friend told her that her fiancee and another girlfriend of hers was at her house having sex in her bed. My husband's first reaction was, So? Cool, why would you be angry? Then remembered, crap these people don't know I am a swinger....It was comical because of the reaction. Everyday people you meet are so uptight about sexual experiences, flirting, kissing etc... but then you meet swingers. The most outgoing, forward people in the world. WOW! Glad to be liberated from daily constraints =0)
On a side note, my husband and I have rules as well. Our main rule is same room. This means no sex without the other there in the same room at the same time. Now kissing and tiny little things like that are permitted without the other around but we need to know about it. Examples- our swinger friends J and J- Butt smacks, kisses are legal alone..... heavy making out and more illegal. Friends we never met or friends that are not "preapproved with each other"- nothing is exceptable. Right now we only have the aggrement with J and J and honestly nothing happens without the other there. EXCEPT though I now have rights to fool around with her anytime, anywhere I want... HAHA Would be a great deal if only I were into women =) Ill dance, kiss and touch but honestly not overly attracted to the idea of woman on woman action... maybe Ill change in time!
My husband told me a story about something that happened to him last night. He came across a lady who said she was angry. She was in a hurry to get home because she got a call from her friend. Her friend told her that her fiancee and another girlfriend of hers was at her house having sex in her bed. My husband's first reaction was, So? Cool, why would you be angry? Then remembered, crap these people don't know I am a swinger....It was comical because of the reaction. Everyday people you meet are so uptight about sexual experiences, flirting, kissing etc... but then you meet swingers. The most outgoing, forward people in the world. WOW! Glad to be liberated from daily constraints =0)
On a side note, my husband and I have rules as well. Our main rule is same room. This means no sex without the other there in the same room at the same time. Now kissing and tiny little things like that are permitted without the other around but we need to know about it. Examples- our swinger friends J and J- Butt smacks, kisses are legal alone..... heavy making out and more illegal. Friends we never met or friends that are not "preapproved with each other"- nothing is exceptable. Right now we only have the aggrement with J and J and honestly nothing happens without the other there. EXCEPT though I now have rights to fool around with her anytime, anywhere I want... HAHA Would be a great deal if only I were into women =) Ill dance, kiss and touch but honestly not overly attracted to the idea of woman on woman action... maybe Ill change in time!
Monday, August 8, 2011
A Monday....
My Monday was so blah!! What I love is having something to look forward to but this week and weekend looks like it will be duller then used crayons =( My husband has to work all weekend out of town so that means no family fun, no couples fun, no swingers fun =( Hmmm what to do what to do?
Maybe it will be good to take some time off..... wait, nevermind. No not necessary!
Looking towards the future we have no swinging events planned. We met a couple when we were Kissimmee. They were gorgeous. He was about 6 ft tall, muscles for days, typical Hollister Model type and she was a hot, gorgeous hispanic girl. On Saturday at the pool of the event weekend I spotted them sitting on the edge of the water. He was soooo very good looking. The type that is extremely extremely hard to find. Instantly I thought, they are out of our league, Everyone will swam them, Why wouldn't they? Def. the most attractive couple the entire weekend. Well me being me I decide in my mind that I will find a way to work my magic and talk to them. Not sure how I would do it but I was going to. What was the worst thing that could have happened? They blow me off....
We found our way to their side of the pool. They were talking to an older couple but I decided I would hang off the edge and just relax (and eaves drop in on the conversation). Within a few minutes that older couple swam away. Here was my chance. Everything was so quiet between the two of them, I simply asked, Where are you two from? Good thing I did that, got the ball rolling and went from there. They also reside in Florida but a few hours away from where we live. We talked for a while, come to find out they were very interested in talking to us.
We parted ways so we could get out of the sun but told them we wanted to meet up sometime at the dance party later that night.
We ended up having dinner outside at a table with J and J (who came with us if I didn't mention that earlier) We were all talking when all of a sudden hollister guy and his wife came up and sat down with us. We all had some great conversations. It was wonderful and later that night was even better.
I had drank a little more then I normally do so I was not shy at all. We met up with them, danced, kissed a little, it was so much fun. Nothing naughty happened just fun friendly happenings. Would pay to do it all over again. My husband decided that they should meet us next time we are in Orlando in September. He took the step and emailed them asking them out on a Saturday night when we go there. Havent heard back yet but it would be great if we did! SO MUCH FUN!
I think my husband now has a secret wanting for hispanic women FYI! Love you baby!
Maybe it will be good to take some time off..... wait, nevermind. No not necessary!
Looking towards the future we have no swinging events planned. We met a couple when we were Kissimmee. They were gorgeous. He was about 6 ft tall, muscles for days, typical Hollister Model type and she was a hot, gorgeous hispanic girl. On Saturday at the pool of the event weekend I spotted them sitting on the edge of the water. He was soooo very good looking. The type that is extremely extremely hard to find. Instantly I thought, they are out of our league, Everyone will swam them, Why wouldn't they? Def. the most attractive couple the entire weekend. Well me being me I decide in my mind that I will find a way to work my magic and talk to them. Not sure how I would do it but I was going to. What was the worst thing that could have happened? They blow me off....
We found our way to their side of the pool. They were talking to an older couple but I decided I would hang off the edge and just relax (and eaves drop in on the conversation). Within a few minutes that older couple swam away. Here was my chance. Everything was so quiet between the two of them, I simply asked, Where are you two from? Good thing I did that, got the ball rolling and went from there. They also reside in Florida but a few hours away from where we live. We talked for a while, come to find out they were very interested in talking to us.
We parted ways so we could get out of the sun but told them we wanted to meet up sometime at the dance party later that night.
We ended up having dinner outside at a table with J and J (who came with us if I didn't mention that earlier) We were all talking when all of a sudden hollister guy and his wife came up and sat down with us. We all had some great conversations. It was wonderful and later that night was even better.
I had drank a little more then I normally do so I was not shy at all. We met up with them, danced, kissed a little, it was so much fun. Nothing naughty happened just fun friendly happenings. Would pay to do it all over again. My husband decided that they should meet us next time we are in Orlando in September. He took the step and emailed them asking them out on a Saturday night when we go there. Havent heard back yet but it would be great if we did! SO MUCH FUN!
I think my husband now has a secret wanting for hispanic women FYI! Love you baby!
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Best Weekend EVER!
So this past weekend was freaking awesome. We went to a hotel buyout- all inclusive weekend in Kissimmee Florida this past weekend. Being new to the lifestyle we were pretty unsure about what to expect when we arrived. We live a few hours away and went with another couple. As soon as we walked in the doors the fun began.
One big thing I have to comment on is that everyone we met so far have been some of the friendliest and cool people we have had the pleasure of being around. The amount of people there were in the hundreds. Somewhere around 500-600 people were in attendance. The atmosphere was awesome.
Saturday we were able to relax by the pool and meet some interesting people. One of the biggest things about this part of the day is that it was clothing optional in the pool area. Some people were completely covered up and some were butt naked. I myself have been in the past very self conscious. It was great not having to worry about what other people thought and let loose a little.
The highlight of the trip was last night. The hotel had a bar with a stage and DJ. The drinks and food were free and we danced the night away (Friday as well)
We met several couples that we have quickly friended on our SLS and SDC webpages. All the couples were unique in there own way. Some very hot, some not so much but the personalities were awesome, and some we definately want to meet again.
At this event there was people from all over the country, it was fantastic.
If you are in the lifestyle you really need to experience a weekend like this one sometime soon.
One big thing I have to comment on is that everyone we met so far have been some of the friendliest and cool people we have had the pleasure of being around. The amount of people there were in the hundreds. Somewhere around 500-600 people were in attendance. The atmosphere was awesome.
Saturday we were able to relax by the pool and meet some interesting people. One of the biggest things about this part of the day is that it was clothing optional in the pool area. Some people were completely covered up and some were butt naked. I myself have been in the past very self conscious. It was great not having to worry about what other people thought and let loose a little.
The highlight of the trip was last night. The hotel had a bar with a stage and DJ. The drinks and food were free and we danced the night away (Friday as well)
We met several couples that we have quickly friended on our SLS and SDC webpages. All the couples were unique in there own way. Some very hot, some not so much but the personalities were awesome, and some we definately want to meet again.
At this event there was people from all over the country, it was fantastic.
If you are in the lifestyle you really need to experience a weekend like this one sometime soon.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
ANTICIPATION!
Its killing me right now! OMG! SO we were supposed to go to Kissimmee on Saturday but not got shit worked out so we can go Friday night instead! FREAKING OUT! WOW! The anticipation is killing me. Mainly because we have NEVER been to a resort take over before. So Glad our super sexy J and J are going with us and actually we are driving now together because of the way its working out! Soooooo can't wait for 24 hours from now. Thinking questions up like, what will it be like? Will there be people I know? Ugly people? Fat People? Cool people? At least J and J will be going and we are all newbies together!
A few posts ago I started to talk about our first experience meeting a couple. Not sure if I mentioned but this was meeting J and J. Well it went like this....
We walked into the small downtown bar. This place is filled with hometown character and its a great atmosphere. Our plan as a couple was one drink and leave. Get out fast, not too much info given out and thats it. As we walked into the door we saw them ( we had facebooked them already without them knowing to see what they actually looked like in everyday life) She is a small thin girl (smaller then I and I am a size 3) and he was a smaller guy about the size of my husband. Not drop dead gorgeous people but friendly looking people. We make eye contact and sit down next to them. This is were the nerves settle in quick. We all start talking and suddenly it is wonderful. The men connect and I connect with him quick. She was very quiet, we were not too sure what she thought. We had a drink and spent about an hour and a half just talking.
We had planned on going out to a club together that evening so we decided it was time to leave. He was definately not my type, skinnier redneck guy. Typical Florida. Someone who I wouldn't normally be attracted to. My type is the metrosexual male.... We walk about to our car and say goodbye. That was awkward as hell because what do you do? Do you shake hands? hugs? kisses? Who the hell knows.
After that we talked about them. At the first meeting I wasn't completely sold that I was attracted to him that much, she was pretty for my husband but they were the polar opposities of us. Looking back that should have been the dead giveaway that they are the perfect swing couple for us.
That night went on, we went out to the club, met some cool yet very unattractive people. Got great tips and had a great couples night out. Had a ton of sex for the next days to come....
That following morning the couple we met instant messaged us. They liked us. He thought I was hot and his wife like my husband. I agreed that we all had a connection, I wasn't sure if I was connecting with him as much but I was willing to try them out again. We had decided that we would get our kids together next time for a cookout or something of the sorts so we could get a better feel for each other and spend some quality family time together as well.
The main lesson I took away from looking at this is never judge a swinger by the first date. Personality changes everything! Get physical quick, Go play pool, have a few drinks, get the families together etc... whatever it is get moving and get to know them. This isn't just about SEX its about friendships! (at least for us it is)
A few posts ago I started to talk about our first experience meeting a couple. Not sure if I mentioned but this was meeting J and J. Well it went like this....
We walked into the small downtown bar. This place is filled with hometown character and its a great atmosphere. Our plan as a couple was one drink and leave. Get out fast, not too much info given out and thats it. As we walked into the door we saw them ( we had facebooked them already without them knowing to see what they actually looked like in everyday life) She is a small thin girl (smaller then I and I am a size 3) and he was a smaller guy about the size of my husband. Not drop dead gorgeous people but friendly looking people. We make eye contact and sit down next to them. This is were the nerves settle in quick. We all start talking and suddenly it is wonderful. The men connect and I connect with him quick. She was very quiet, we were not too sure what she thought. We had a drink and spent about an hour and a half just talking.
We had planned on going out to a club together that evening so we decided it was time to leave. He was definately not my type, skinnier redneck guy. Typical Florida. Someone who I wouldn't normally be attracted to. My type is the metrosexual male.... We walk about to our car and say goodbye. That was awkward as hell because what do you do? Do you shake hands? hugs? kisses? Who the hell knows.
After that we talked about them. At the first meeting I wasn't completely sold that I was attracted to him that much, she was pretty for my husband but they were the polar opposities of us. Looking back that should have been the dead giveaway that they are the perfect swing couple for us.
That night went on, we went out to the club, met some cool yet very unattractive people. Got great tips and had a great couples night out. Had a ton of sex for the next days to come....
That following morning the couple we met instant messaged us. They liked us. He thought I was hot and his wife like my husband. I agreed that we all had a connection, I wasn't sure if I was connecting with him as much but I was willing to try them out again. We had decided that we would get our kids together next time for a cookout or something of the sorts so we could get a better feel for each other and spend some quality family time together as well.
The main lesson I took away from looking at this is never judge a swinger by the first date. Personality changes everything! Get physical quick, Go play pool, have a few drinks, get the families together etc... whatever it is get moving and get to know them. This isn't just about SEX its about friendships! (at least for us it is)
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Super Excited!
Just going to post in case there is someone out there going! We will be in Kissimmee this weekend for the hotel take over! Super pumped! Going with J and J and planning on having a wonderful time! Music, entertainment, food, drinks and more! Private rooms... all kinds of naughty things to get into! Can't wait to people watch and make some new friends! Comment if your going, would LOVE LOVE LOVE to meet you!
The Beginning
I like to bounce around when I write sometimes. It keeps your mind tuned in better.
When my husband and I decided to look a little more into the lifestyle we discovered a whole new world we never knew existed. We thought that this would be a small group of people that were involved and that it would probably be hard to find like-minded individuals that we really clicked with. Boy were we wrong!!!
We started looking online. There are specific websites out there such as swinglifestyle and SDC that match you with other like-minded couples in the lifestyle. These websites were and still are wonderful resources to us. We were able to go online, much like a dating website and make a profile, post pictures and email people back and forth.
One day my husband and I were online while the kids were napping. It was a Saturday afternoon and he was playing on the computer looking at postings while I was cleaning the house up a bit. All of a sudden we got an instant message from a couple we had not yet connected with. They started chatting it up a bit. We found out they were J and J and they did not live too far away from us. They were a couple new to the lifestyle as well and invited us to have a drink out with them sometime when we were free. That evening we had planned on going out as a couple. There was a little club for people in the lifestyle about 45 minutes from our house and we were wanting to stop in there and see what it was all about. After a little bit of conversation my husband was very interested in meeting them. The men found out they had similar jobs and that we both had kids at home still.
Not to seem too forward but we were excited to connect with someone so much like us just a few days on this site. My husband was really anxious to see them so he messaged them back about meeting at a small little bar not far from our house. They were able to meet and we ended up meeting them before we went to the club.
Meeting them was very nerve racking to say the least. We had never done this before. Questions popped up such as, what do we talk about? What do we wear? How do we say goodbye? These are all going through our head as we walk through that narrow doorway into the bar…..
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
My "Monday" Night Adventure!
To go back to how it all started... My husband asked me, would this be something you want to try sometime? I really thought about it and my first question to myself was, is he unhappy? I quickly dismissed that instantly once I started to feel as if I wanted to try it. Once again I ask myself, Am I unhappy? How can this be? It all comes down to this. It is human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. Us woman can fight the argument but we all know that in the end, we have yearnings and we have fantasies just as much as men do. Why not experience it all with our best friend?
One thing that we have experienced in this lifestyle is the spontaneous culture of this way of life. Still being new we have had fun with our friends on Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays and even Monday nights. We do not have sex with our friends every time we get together. Sometimes we get together for drinks at the local hangout and invite some vanilla friends along for the night. Sometimes we get our families together and let the kids play. Whatever it is we always seem to have fun.
Starting new with the lifestyle we will identify our friends by names other than what they really are to protect others identities. Our closest friends at the moment go by the names of J and J. We love to get together with this couple. The best parts are that we all have so much in common. The men have had similar careers and the women can talk up a storm for hours. An outsider would think that there would be jealous feelings towards the others for having sex with his or her spouse. This just isn't happening. The feelings are quite opposite. The guys can talk and talk for hours on end from everything from cars to sex. The women can go off and lay around talking about the past decade with her own spouse and talk intimate details.
This is one of the best parts of this lifestyle and being new to it. As a woman I have never had girlfriends that would ever be willing to be open enough to share sexual details of the spouse. It is not the social norm that we have been taught to live by. Thinking about the norm my new opinions are this, it sucks and let’s make the rest of our lives count. It is great. Last night for instance J told me that J has a new arousal spot and to try it on him. I did by the way and he loved every minute of it.
Last night was one of those nights that solidify for us all about why we are in the lifestyle and enjoy spending so much time with each other. We talked about everything. We ended up going overnight so that the girls could get some errands done in another part of the state the next day. We ended up sharing a suite in a hotel and had a lot of fun. We watched TV, talked, and shared spouses. What more could you ask for. Mind-blowing sex & laughs is always a A+ night in my book......
One thing that we have experienced in this lifestyle is the spontaneous culture of this way of life. Still being new we have had fun with our friends on Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays and even Monday nights. We do not have sex with our friends every time we get together. Sometimes we get together for drinks at the local hangout and invite some vanilla friends along for the night. Sometimes we get our families together and let the kids play. Whatever it is we always seem to have fun.
Starting new with the lifestyle we will identify our friends by names other than what they really are to protect others identities. Our closest friends at the moment go by the names of J and J. We love to get together with this couple. The best parts are that we all have so much in common. The men have had similar careers and the women can talk up a storm for hours. An outsider would think that there would be jealous feelings towards the others for having sex with his or her spouse. This just isn't happening. The feelings are quite opposite. The guys can talk and talk for hours on end from everything from cars to sex. The women can go off and lay around talking about the past decade with her own spouse and talk intimate details.
This is one of the best parts of this lifestyle and being new to it. As a woman I have never had girlfriends that would ever be willing to be open enough to share sexual details of the spouse. It is not the social norm that we have been taught to live by. Thinking about the norm my new opinions are this, it sucks and let’s make the rest of our lives count. It is great. Last night for instance J told me that J has a new arousal spot and to try it on him. I did by the way and he loved every minute of it.
Last night was one of those nights that solidify for us all about why we are in the lifestyle and enjoy spending so much time with each other. We talked about everything. We ended up going overnight so that the girls could get some errands done in another part of the state the next day. We ended up sharing a suite in a hotel and had a lot of fun. We watched TV, talked, and shared spouses. What more could you ask for. Mind-blowing sex & laughs is always a A+ night in my book......
Monday, August 1, 2011
Swinging 101!
Before we get any further into this blog I would like to explain the lifestyle in more depth to everyone. Swinging- that we already defined. Now there are terms such as soft swap and full swap. Basically soft swap means making out, touching, flirting and oral sex. Full swap means everything. Basically it’s a wife swap. This is what my husband and I currently engage in with couples. Not everyone does full swap. We do.
There are rules and boundaries every couple must set before getting into the lifestyle. I will admit our rules have changed often. You need to reevaluate often. Talk more. Have sex with each other even more!
No means no. When we were looking into this lifestyle I heard this phrase used often but I did not put too much thought into it. I always thought, ya right, people are pushy I am sure. I never really understood how true it was. Everyone we have met so far are the most down to earth caring and respectful people we have ever met. There is never judgment. There is never second guessing. If you’re good everyone is good, if you aren’t no one is.
Vanilla- This refers to a friend who does not swing. If someone calls you vanilla then you know they are swingers! More education of swinging to come later in the blogs….
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