Wild Night Unexpected!

WOW! What a night! So this week has been a busy work week for both of us. Up until Wednesday my husband had planned on doing some work about an hour north of us for the weekend and I was going to stay home with the kids. Last minute I was able to get the grandparents to take the kids overnight so I could meet my husband after he got off work and go out and have a little us time out on the town.
For the past few weeks we have been talking to a couple we met through one of the swingers websites about getting together. They were a cute couple who lived about an hour away but traveled to our area often because they we trying to keep the lifestyle on the down low.
I emailed them since we were going to be in their area last night. It worked out well because they didn't have any plans and they really wanted to meet up they said. I have no expectations of people because I learned a while ago pictures can be deceiving. In both ways.
We agreed we would meet at a local bar and grill for a few drinks and just chat. Well we finally get to the bar after my husband has a VERY long work day and we immediately see them as we walk in the door. WOW WOW WOW
As the female counterpart in this lifestyle and meeting a lot of lifestyle people I have to say this was one of the top couples we have met on attractiveness level. We have met a lot of decent looking people but this topped it all.
We sat down for about an hour and had a few drinks and chatted. Great couple. We all had similiar interested and lines of work.We all just clicked. They quickly told us about there system with each other of signals and said we were a couple they would definately tell each other they wanted to be with.
Now this is where I have to add- in the last 6 months in the LS we have NEVER had sex with a couple we just met..... until. last night!
We went back to our hotel and had sooo much fun! The sex was awesome! The company was great. We all just had a wonderful time. I learned some new oral sex techniques and was pleasured more by this man then any other man aside from my husband. Just great sex. This is what the LS is about!!
Side note: something I Have learned through all this is that my husband has a larger then normal penis! Its a funny thought but true. Every man I look at now I seem to wonder, "how big is it?".
Too big is scary but just a random thought coming up in my head right now!
Definately want to get together again with this couple. Its been 6 weeks since our last play session so we were definately OVERDUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now we are preparing for the hedo halloween party in a little less then 2 weeks! Can't wait for that!

Saturday NIGHTS OUT!

So both myself and my entire family has been sick for the past 2 weeks so blogging has gone by the wayside BUT now we are up and running again. Actually got a work out in today so I am happy! My kids and husband got that dreaded stomach flu! Thankfully that pasted me but last Friday I came down with the flu. Saturday night I did feel good enough to go out but then felt bad from Sunday on.
About last Saturday night:
We went out to a new semi local swingers night club. No playrooms on premise, mainly a meet and greet site. Its called Club 54 in Lehigh Acres here in Southwest Florida. My review: its iffy. Here was the deal. You paid $25 per couple just to get in and then the drinks themselves were between $4-$8. We met a couple we have been trying to meet up with for a while. That made the night worth it. We also took my favorite single guy friend out with us who was a "virgin" to the swingers club. He had a blast which also made it worth it. He actually found a nice single girl to spend the evening with. Downside: no one got booty! =( but it was a good night all and all. Though I do think my single guy friend made up for it a few nights later when he got a booty call from the girl he met!!  Awesomeness.

You can't complain when you are surrounded by your swinger friends!

I think the club would be worth going back to if they had play rooms on site. Its in the middle of no where and about an hour from our house. Playrooms are what swingers are looking for in my opinion! We are here to find new people to make friends with YES but playing is FUN!


Tonight! We are going out for a short while. My husband and I are going to get dinner and drinks then we are meeting some LS friends at a local bar to hear a local swingers band. SWINGERS ARE EVERYWHERE! LOL Mixed with the vanilla folks it should be a good night. Would be fun to kiss someone new but I have no balls. I need to grow a pair (figuratively speaking)

I keep telling myself I need to become more aggressive but when it comes down to it its just not me. I want to be though. I guess I go back to the days of being vanilla and dating and the idea of rejection! I know I am hot (side story in a minute) and I should act like one hot bitch who has it all!

About being hot! Went into Walmart yesterday to go get a fill. For you guys living under a rock a fill is acrylic nails being "redone". Anyways! I was walking into walmart when a semi-attractive hispanic man about 5 years younger then me looks at me and says, "Your smoking hot". I look at him and reply "thanks". At this point he looks a little shocked. I don't know if its the rejection vanilla girls give to guys who throw random comments their way or not but he wasn't expecting such a positive response from me. I found it funny! And ballsy! I like that. A guy who can just throw it all out there. Not worried about rejection and give the compliments out! Girls love that by the way, well at least swinger girls do! This one does! haha

Well this girl has to get off.... maybe in more ways then one BUT need to pick out clothes for tonight. I think its going to be a tight jeans, 5 inch heels and a low cut top! Its going to be in the high 60's low 70's so gotta cover it up a bit but sexing it up as much as I can!

Have fun kids!

My week in a review!

Boy what a week!! I am self employed in the insurance industry. It has been a bit slow here in Sunny Florida. All the older people are still in the northern states since its a whopping 95 degrees plus here almost every day. That has a slight effect on my weekly pay! ICK! Hopefully next week is a money making week.
On a note of money. I am currently thinking of opening an online adult store. Something I have been thinking about for a while now. Got in touch with a wonderful company to assist me and I would specialize in toys but I also want to carry all the get up that swingers love so dear. I.E- Double dildos, black light wear for parties, anything and everything fishnet for men and women, lubes of all colors and tastes etc....
Why do I want to do this? Well I want to tie it into the swingers thing and use my title of swing wife. Work the blog along with the store. I think it would be fun, the extra income would definately help and people need/want good priced adult stuff!  You just never know who or where to buy it from half the time. Fun fun! I will keep everyone updated!
This past week we were supposed to meet up with a new couple but that fell through thanks to the flu! Ick!
Is everyone out there been sick in some way shape or form this past month? Its so darn hot I do not get it but its around here! Big time.
This weekend includes: me and the kids around the house! WOOHOO! Husband is working again! Can not wait for his schedule to back to normal! Can not wait! Need it to change. I like to have a little fun on the weekends!
Got stuff to do though and Saturday night I have been promised wine and beers at my house by one of our friends (also in the lifestyle but single) so we will see! That should be fun! A little typsy, good laughs... sounds like a good night in! Gotta save that $$ too!
$$$ that is a big complaint by a lot of people lately. They have none! They want to go out and do stuff but its expensive. We always seem to scrape by but maybe it was good to have some uneventful times lately!!

Ill keep everyone updated on the adult toy store idea! I really want to do it. Need my husband on board with the idea. That should not be too hard... Gotta market!
Have a great weekend everyone! BE SAFE!

This lame weekend....

One word that could describe this weekend... LAME! Ended up sick last night, Friday and still feeling under the weather today along with my 4 year old! Fun times. The day has been spent by watching Netflix live streaming, drinking diet mountain dews, and snacking. Fun times. Much less eventful then last weekend but hey I guess we all need a weekend here and there to relax and kick  back a little. My husband has to work this weekend anyways, he is on midnights so that pretty much was the final straw to a boring weekend.

Prior to getting sick I spent the night Thursday with my husband and one of my favorite single male friends that I have known for over a decade. He came over our house to hang with my husband and I. We stayed up way too late with a few drinks and bull shitting about everything. Trying to talk him into coming with us to a resort take over party right before Halloween. I hope I have convinced him but we will see. I KNOW a experience like this is something EVERYONE has to do at least once in their lifetime! I just want to be the evil influence upon society!

 Wish we had more of a supply of sexy friends to introduce into the lifestyle and these parties. My husband and I had a discussion early this morning in bed when he came home from work. There is a co worker of his who was joking about sex with him last night. This man you could say is my husbands best work friend. They get along well and they are great people (both him and his wife) Sexy level is about a zero though. Bless their hearts..... He started talking about lesbian encounters his wife had prior to their getting married and talking about hooters waitresses and so on. He actually asked my husband a question that pertained to me and another woman and so on. My husband just laughs as he tells me this. We want to tell them about the lifestyle so badly but their is one glitch... we NEVER want to play with them. So for now we have agreed to stay quiet and just laugh along with the comments. My question is , how do you sway but not play?

No big plans really for tomorrow, its a Sunday. I am hoping my daughter wakes sickness free and my son completely bipasses the sickness. This could be a long week if he gets sick as well. Saying a little prayer that it just goes away..... Lysol and me are best friends!

Monday we do have a dinner date. A little nervous about it actually. Still being new we haven't gone out and met a lot of couples on a one on one basis. This couple we have checked out quite extensively. They are very attractive, just a few years older then us and live locally. They actually know a lot of the same people we know. It is funny how small the swingers world really us. We are hoping it goes well because they are very attractive. One thing that does make me nervous is that they are not married. They are in a committed relationship but not married, can I get anyones feedback on this?? What do you think about this and would this sway your opinions on swinging with them? They have been together for 2 years. Newer to swinging as well but around 30.

I want to say a big thank you to lost in nevada! He is trying to hard to get the word out on my blog! His blog is awesome as well, check him out at, http://lostinnevada.wordpress.com/

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Shhhh Don't let anyone know...

So today at my job I got a little short of words with a coworker. I was standing there while she was talking to a friend about her husband cheating on her. A few months back this lady found out that her husband was sleeping with another woman without her knowing and he actually got this other lady pregnant. Not a very smart man by any means. She was talking to this lady about the details. The conversation suddenly turned into talking about swingers somehow. I am not sure about how it did but seriously I had to bite my tongue. The women just started to judge. They yelled outloud about the grossness of swingers and swapping. I just came to a conclusion when I spoke to my husband about this... people are afraid of swingers and what they don't understand. They just don't get the permissions and the trust swingers have with each other. Its a complete fear. Very sad to see such closed minded people.


Now on to what I promised yesterday. More on our Labor Day weekend fun. Sunday was our wedding anniversary and we were supposed to just go off together and maybe do Disney World. I hurt my foot recently so I was not really up to walking the 3-5 miles that day around the park so we decided early in the morning to take up the ones couple offer and try to attend the party Sunday. We had to text or call the couple that was putting the party on because it was a private party group of about 40 couples and they are prescreened and selective. We texted them our picture and they quickly replied we were in. We swapped profiles on the websites and decided we needed to prepare for the party. It was a themed party at a martini bar. The theme was naughty nurses and doctors. My husband and I made a quick trip to walmart for scrubs for him. We got them back to the hotel and did a little surgery....

We cut the sleeves off the scrubs and we luckily had a second outfit for me that night. It was a cute two piece outfit that I made a nurses outfit. Very very sexy.....

Cutting out part of the day, we get to the party. Its on a corner of a street in a small little town outside of Orlando. It looks like any ordinary martini bar. I was very nervous. We sat in the car for 20 minutes waiting to see what the other couples looked like going in. My husband finally dragged me out and we went in.

As soon as we opened the doors we were surprised. This wasnt a martini bar, it was a cover. It was a swingers club. They had a dance floor, full bar, couches everywhere and a playroom. Even a couch in the womens bathroom. We signed our waivers and quickly proceeded over the beautiful marbled bar and got a drink. We didn't see the people who invited us yet so we sat there for a few minutes. We started seeing nothing but beautiful people EVERYWHERE.  EVERYWHERE... and when I say beautiful... Everyone was under 45, cut, clean, gorgeous people. WOW! It was so refreshing...
Met some great fabulous couples. People were so open. Making out with each other anywhere and everywhere. Everyone was friendly. SOOO friendly. We felt like the cool kids. Did I say everyone was beautiful?

We danced for hours. We people watched. We ended up not playing with anyone but we had the time of our lives. We can't wait to take friends back. Couple friends, single friends, whoever they may be they HAVE to experience this. Can't wait to go back again!

Labor Day Weekend fun!

Where do I start on our Labor Day Weekend? We went to Orlando this past weekend, its about 2.5 hours from our house, for our anniversary fun weekend. We had planned on attending the Hedo Parties event on Saturday night in Kissimmee. Before this weekend we had been contacted by a couple from another town who was also attending the party. Cute couple, about a 5 year age difference. They filled the mold of potential play partners. After several chat sessions with them we agreed to meet with them the afternoon of the party to see if we all clicked. We ended up meeting them for a drink at a bar in the Orlando area. We had a great time. The woman was hysterical. She by far had the best personality of any woman we have met so far in the lifestyle. He had a wonderful personality as well. He was not quite what I was attracted to as much but his personality by far was over and beyond what I had expected. We talked for a few hours about past experiences, both good and bad and how we are were very similar in everyday life to each other.

We ended up agreeing to go back to their hotel room for some pre party drinks and conversation. Both us girls dressed similar in hot pink tops and we were ready for a black light party for the Hedo Party! We used some body paints I had purchased a few days before and we had lots of laughs. We were ready to go. We did take seperate cars to the party and danced for hours. At the party we met up with another couple that my husband has known outside the world of swinging for years. He is a dark, fit black man about 30 years old and his wife is mixed. Both are beautiful people who knew lots of other beautiful people. Definately the people you want to be friends with and more.

After we talked to them we hook up with the couple we met a few hours before. They also met with a couple they were put into contact with by mutual friends in the lifestyle. He was tall and slim and she was beautiful and quite handsy. She quickly took a hold of my husband and gave him all the go signals that she was ready for some fun with him. We all kept dancing and having laughs until about 1am. We all decided to leave together and go back to the hotel room for a 3 couple fun session.

This part of the night was a lot of fun but not quite the way I was hoping for it to end. My husband ended up with the handsy lady and I would have prefered to end up with her husband but instead I ended up with the other guy we had met earlier that day. He was a great sex partner, he brought me to climax several times that night, pushed the buttons nicely and overall brought a great time to the night. I ended the night by swapping back with my husband and we ended it nicely. For only the second round of people swinging with it was another great positive experience.

After we were all done we spent some time talking with each other. The more attractive couple invited us to a party the next night. We found out there was a "private party group" in the Sanford area of Florida that puts on pre screened parties. These parties are by invitation only but they were supposed to be a lot of fun. At the time we were not quite sure if we wanted to go to the party Sunday. Sunday was our 7 year anniversary. We told them we would think about it and went back to our hotel.

This is where I really enjoy the lifestyle. We had mind blowing sex. Love the after play sex. For some reason swapping makes you want your own so much for days later. Its crazy! Not sure how many times I went that night but definately had a great time.

More to follow on our Sunday adventure... Will try to post tomorrow!

Getting ready for the weekend!

Who out there has exciting Labor Day Plans with their LS friends? Let me know about it. I love to hear about others adventures as well!

This weekend we are packing up Saturday to go to a party in Orlando. Going to the same resort we went to about a month ago for a Labor day party. Should be a lot of fun! Starting to get very excited as well. We are currently talking to another couple who will be attending as well. Had some great chats through the swinglifestyle page and they are a great match. The lady is not bi and the man is very normal. No weird S & M, Bi sexual man, kinky weirdo traits yet to be found! We are going to meet them pre party as well which is a good thing. They are very interested in playing which if we do will be our first time playing with a couple the same day we meet. Gotta broaden our horizons I told my husband. He thinks the lady is hot as hell. I have to agree. Very attractive woman. The man I am a little concerned about but I think that the personality will overrule this one and we should match great.

We also have another couple going that my husband has known for years. Unknowingly to him he has been in the lifestyle as well. Should be a great night! Can't wait!
Only down turn.... I hurt my foot at the gym! Currently I am home off work with my foot iced and elevated. I was looking forward to wearing my 6 inch Guess Sexy Heels! Hopefully I will still be able to but time will tell.
Gotta get a outfit still too. Its a white party with blacklights. This girl doesn't do white often but I want to find something super sexy, kinky, hot and makes a man go hard in 2 seconds flat! Oh ya! Def. getting excited for the weekend!

Last night I was looking on our SDC and swinglifestyle pages. Those are the two that we pay for and like the best. I had a couple we have been talking to for a while now message me. Now a little background, we have talked only on chat and text. Never met them in person. Everytime we try to get together they cancel or something comes up with us. We all have small kids at home so it happens! I get that. He wants to attempt another meetup and starts questioning me last night. We told him that we won't committ to play until we meet. We have said that over and over again. We told him sometimes we may need more then one meeting depending on compatibility and such. We also told him that I am not bi and my groundrules for that. Well last night he became very pushy... Questioning why we were even in the lifestyle because the only reason they are is for the girl on girl thing and that now he says they have only full swapped a handful of times. Its all about the girls. He even asked me if I would make an exception. I began to laugh because I just don't understand why or where this pushy nature comes from... There are so many in the LS and your trying to change established people? Definately not a couple we will be meeting. Too bad, haven't experienced any people like this yet. Quite the opposite which has made everything so GREAT!

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Saturday Night Blogging!

Fun times! Hubby is working this weekend and I am stuck home alone with the kiddos watching reruns of cops! WOW! BORING! THANK GOD next weekend is a away weekend in Orlando for us or I would scream right about now!

I haven't blogged in ages. Not a lot of new stuff going on in the swing world. Wish it were.... things are slow and at a hold right now with our current couple. Not really sure what is going on with them. Last weekend we went out to a local bar to listen to a band. This band brings a lot of people who are in the lifestyle out to their venues because they themselves are in the lifestyle. Actually tonight most of our group are out listening to them in another town.

Last Saturday was fun. Met a few new couples. One thing I love about the lifestyle is that everyone seems to get along. The men can all bullshit together and the women can talk like they have known each other for years. There is very little if any catiness between the members of the groups. It was nice even though we had no playtime with anyone =( to get out and meet people in our area in the lifestyle.
One topic up for discussion is bi/girl on girl play. I consider myself straight. Up until know I have always put that label on myself. About a month ago I did some experimentation with one of our friends. I do not find her overly attractive but we get along well. We did some dirty dancing, some kissing and played with a double dildo together. I have to say a woman knows how to touch another woman, much better then most men but the whole idea doesn't get me overly excited.

Almost all the women in the lifestyle are bi sexual. They love girl on girl play and that is what most of the playdates are for. I really really really want to find some couples with the straight female! I think we will have better luck finding couples to play with that way.

Another random thought going on in my head- already, this early into our experiences with the lifestyle, I am seeing how much I prefer the lifestyle people over the vanilla people. Why you may ask? This is the simple reason:
There is a lot of drama with vanilla people. People get overly offended over EVERYTHING! And I mean EVERYTHING! They judge often and well you just can't talk to them life lifestyle friends. Last Saturday when we were out we were talking to another couple whohave been in the lifestyle for decades now. He is in his late 40's and he made two comments. 1) they ditched all vanilla friends and 2) you'll never see fights between lifestyle people. Why? Because men and women fight about jealousy issues. There simply is  none in this way of life. Its great!

So many random thoughts! So little time....

Rainy Tuesday....

Not getting much done today because of the rain here in South Florida. ICK! Very excited today though. That couple we messaged about meeting up with is up to meeting again. Super super excited about that. They are a soft swap couple but we have a good sense that they will become good good friends of ours.
My husband told me a story about something that happened to him last night. He came across a lady who said she was angry. She was in a hurry to get home because she got a call from her friend. Her friend told her that her fiancee and another girlfriend of hers was at her house having sex in her bed. My husband's first reaction was, So? Cool, why would you be angry? Then remembered, crap these people don't know I am a swinger....It was comical because of the reaction. Everyday people you meet are so uptight about sexual experiences, flirting, kissing etc... but then you meet swingers. The most outgoing, forward people in the world. WOW! Glad to be liberated from daily constraints =0)
On a side note, my husband and I have rules as well. Our main rule is same room. This means no sex without the other there in the same room at the same time. Now kissing and tiny little things like that are permitted without the other around but we need to know about it. Examples- our swinger friends J and J- Butt smacks, kisses are legal alone..... heavy making out and more illegal. Friends we never met or friends that are not "preapproved with each other"- nothing is exceptable. Right now we only have the aggrement with J and J and honestly nothing happens without the other there. EXCEPT though I now have rights to fool around with her anytime, anywhere I want... HAHA Would be a great deal if only I were into women =) Ill dance, kiss and touch but honestly not overly attracted to the idea of woman on woman action... maybe Ill change in time!

A Monday....

My Monday was so blah!! What I love is having something to look forward to but this week and weekend looks like it will be duller then used crayons =( My husband has to work all weekend out of town so that means no family fun, no couples fun, no swingers fun =( Hmmm what to do what to do?

Maybe it will be good to take some time off..... wait, nevermind. No not necessary!

Looking towards the future we have no swinging events planned. We met a couple when we were Kissimmee. They were gorgeous. He was about 6 ft tall, muscles for days, typical Hollister Model type and she was a hot, gorgeous hispanic girl. On Saturday at the pool of the event weekend I spotted them sitting on the edge of the water. He was soooo very good looking. The type that is extremely extremely hard to find. Instantly I thought, they are out of our league, Everyone will swam them, Why wouldn't they? Def. the most attractive couple the entire weekend. Well me being me I decide in my mind that I will find a way to work my magic and talk to them. Not sure how I would do it but I was going to. What was the worst thing that could have happened? They blow me off....

We found our way to their side of the pool. They were talking to an older couple but I decided I would hang off the edge and just relax (and eaves drop in on the conversation). Within a few minutes that older couple swam away. Here was my chance. Everything was so quiet between the two of them, I simply asked, Where are you two from? Good thing I did that, got the ball rolling and went from there. They also reside in Florida but a few hours away from where we live. We talked for a while, come to find out they were very interested in talking to us.
We parted ways so we could get out of the sun but told them we wanted to meet up sometime at the dance party later that night.

We ended up having dinner outside at a table with J and J (who came with us if I didn't mention that earlier) We were all talking when all of a sudden hollister guy and his wife came up and sat down with us. We all had some great conversations. It was wonderful and later that night was even better.
I had drank a little more then I normally do so I was not shy at all. We met up with them, danced, kissed a little, it was so much fun. Nothing naughty happened just fun friendly happenings. Would pay to do it all over again. My husband decided that they should meet us next time we are in Orlando in September. He took the step and emailed them asking them out on a Saturday night when we go there. Havent heard back yet but it would be great if we did! SO MUCH FUN!
I think my husband now has a secret wanting for hispanic women FYI! Love you baby!

Best Weekend EVER!

So this past weekend was freaking awesome. We went to a hotel buyout- all inclusive weekend in Kissimmee Florida this past weekend. Being new to the lifestyle we were pretty unsure about what to expect when we arrived. We live a few hours away and went with another couple. As soon as we walked in the doors the fun began.
One big thing I have to comment on is that everyone we met so far have been some of the friendliest and cool people we have had the pleasure of being around. The amount of people there were in the hundreds. Somewhere around 500-600 people were in attendance. The atmosphere was awesome.
Saturday we were able to relax by the pool and meet some interesting people. One of the biggest things about this part of the day is that it was clothing optional in the pool area. Some people were completely covered up and some were butt naked. I myself have been in the past very self conscious. It was great not having to worry about what other people thought and let loose a little.
The highlight of the trip was last night. The hotel had a bar with a stage and DJ. The drinks and food were free and we danced the night away (Friday as well)
We met several couples that we have quickly friended on our SLS and SDC webpages. All the couples were unique in there own way. Some very hot, some not so much but the personalities were awesome, and some we definately want to meet again.
At this event there was people from all over the country, it was fantastic.
If you are in the lifestyle you really need to experience a weekend like this one sometime soon.

ANTICIPATION!

Its killing me right now! OMG! SO we were supposed to go to Kissimmee on Saturday but not got shit worked out so we can go Friday night instead! FREAKING OUT! WOW! The anticipation is killing me. Mainly because we have NEVER been to a resort take over before. So Glad our super sexy J and J are going with us and actually we are driving now together because of the way its working out! Soooooo  can't wait for 24 hours from now. Thinking questions up like, what will it be like? Will there be people I know? Ugly people? Fat People? Cool people? At least J and J will be going and we are all newbies together!

A few posts ago I started to talk about our first experience meeting a couple. Not sure if I mentioned but this was meeting J and J. Well it went like this....

We walked into the small downtown bar. This place is filled with hometown character and its a great atmosphere. Our plan as a couple was one drink and leave. Get out fast, not too much info given out and thats it. As we walked into the door we saw them ( we had facebooked them already without them knowing to see what they actually looked like in everyday life) She is a small thin girl (smaller then I and I am a size 3) and he was a smaller guy about the size of my husband. Not drop dead gorgeous people but friendly looking people. We make eye contact and sit down next to them. This is were the nerves settle in quick. We all start talking and suddenly it is wonderful. The men connect and I connect with him quick. She was very quiet, we were not too sure what she thought. We had a drink and spent about an hour and a half just talking.

We had planned on going out to a club together that evening so we decided it was time to leave. He was definately not my type, skinnier redneck guy. Typical Florida. Someone who I wouldn't normally be attracted to. My type is the metrosexual male.... We walk about to our car and say goodbye. That was awkward as hell because what do you do? Do you shake hands? hugs? kisses? Who the hell knows.

After that we talked about them. At the first meeting I wasn't completely sold that I was attracted to him that much, she was pretty for my husband but they were the polar opposities of us. Looking back that should have been the dead giveaway that they are the perfect swing couple for us.

That night went on, we went out to the club, met some cool yet very unattractive people. Got great tips and had a great couples night out. Had a ton of sex for the next days to come....

That following morning the couple we met instant messaged us. They liked us. He thought I was hot and his wife like my husband. I agreed that we all had a connection, I wasn't sure if I was connecting with him as much but I was willing to try them out again. We had decided that we would get our kids together next time for a cookout or something of the sorts so we could get a better feel for each other and spend some quality family time together as well.

The main lesson I took away from looking at this is never judge a swinger by the first date. Personality changes everything! Get physical quick, Go play pool, have a few drinks, get the families together etc... whatever it is get moving and get to know them. This isn't just about SEX its about friendships! (at least for us it is)

Super Excited!

Just going to post in case there is someone out there going! We will be in Kissimmee this weekend for the hotel take over! Super pumped! Going with J and J and planning on having a wonderful time! Music, entertainment, food, drinks and more! Private rooms... all kinds of naughty things to get into! Can't wait to people watch and make some new friends! Comment if your going, would LOVE LOVE LOVE to meet you!

The Beginning

I like to bounce around when I write sometimes. It keeps your mind tuned in better.

When my husband and I decided to look a little more into the lifestyle we discovered a whole new world we never knew existed. We thought that this would be a small group of people that were involved and that it would probably be hard to find like-minded individuals that we really clicked with. Boy were we wrong!!!

We started looking online. There are specific websites out there such as swinglifestyle and SDC that match you with other like-minded couples in the lifestyle. These websites were and still are wonderful resources to us. We were able to go online, much like a dating website and make a profile, post pictures and email people back and forth.

One day my husband and I were online while the kids were napping. It was a Saturday afternoon and he was playing on the computer looking at postings while I was cleaning the house up a bit. All of a sudden we got an instant message from a couple we had not yet connected with. They started chatting it up a bit. We found out they were J and J and they did not live too far away from us. They were a couple new to the lifestyle as well and invited us to have a drink out with them sometime when we were free. That evening we had planned on going out as a couple. There was a little club for people in the lifestyle about 45 minutes from our house and we were wanting to stop in there and see what it was all about. After a little bit of conversation my husband was very interested in meeting them. The men found out they had similar jobs and that we both had kids at home still.

Not to seem too forward but we were excited to connect with someone so much like us just a few days on this site. My husband was really anxious to see them so he messaged them back about meeting at a small little bar not far from our house. They were able to meet and we ended up meeting them before we went to the club.

Meeting them was very nerve racking to say the least. We had never done this before. Questions popped up such as, what do we talk about? What do we wear? How do we say goodbye? These are all going through our head as we walk through that narrow doorway into the bar…..

My "Monday" Night Adventure!

To go back to how it all started... My husband asked me, would this be something you want to try sometime? I really thought about it and my first question to myself was, is he unhappy? I quickly dismissed that instantly once I started to feel as if I wanted to try it. Once again I ask myself, Am I unhappy? How can this be? It all comes down to this. It is human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. Us woman can fight the argument but we all know that in the end, we have yearnings and we have fantasies just as much as men do. Why not experience it all with our best friend?



One thing that we have experienced in this lifestyle is the spontaneous culture of this way of life. Still being new we have had fun with our friends on Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays and even Monday nights. We do not have sex with our friends every time we get together. Sometimes we get together for drinks at the local hangout and invite some vanilla friends along for the night. Sometimes we get our families together and let the kids play. Whatever it is we always seem to have fun.

Starting new with the lifestyle we will identify our friends by names other than what they really are to protect others identities. Our closest friends at the moment go by the names of J and J. We love to get together with this couple. The best parts are that we all have so much in common. The men have had similar careers and the women can talk up a storm for hours. An outsider would think that there would be jealous feelings towards the others for having sex with his or her spouse. This just isn't happening. The feelings are quite opposite. The guys can talk and talk for hours on end from everything from cars to sex. The women can go off and lay around talking about the past decade with her own spouse and talk intimate details.

This is one of the best parts of this lifestyle and being new to it. As a woman I have never had girlfriends that would ever be willing to be open enough to share sexual details of the spouse. It is not the social norm that we have been taught to live by. Thinking about the norm my new opinions are this, it sucks and let’s make the rest of our lives count. It is great. Last night for instance J told me that J has a new arousal spot and to try it on him. I did by the way and he loved every minute of it.

Last night was one of those nights that solidify for us all about why we are in the lifestyle and enjoy spending so much time with each other. We talked about everything. We ended up going overnight so that the girls could get some errands done in another part of the state the next day. We ended up sharing a suite in a hotel and had a lot of fun. We watched TV, talked, and shared spouses. What more could you ask for. Mind-blowing sex & laughs is always a A+ night in my book......

Swinging 101!

Before we get any further into this blog I would like to explain the lifestyle in more depth to everyone. Swinging- that we already defined. Now there are terms such as soft swap and full swap. Basically soft swap means making out, touching, flirting and oral sex. Full swap means everything. Basically it’s a wife swap. This is what my husband and I currently engage in with couples. Not everyone does full swap. We do.

There are rules and boundaries every couple must set before getting into the lifestyle. I will admit our rules have changed often. You need to reevaluate often. Talk more. Have sex with each other even more!

No means no. When we were looking into this lifestyle I heard this phrase used often but I did not put too much thought into it. I always thought, ya right, people are pushy I am sure. I never really understood how true it was. Everyone we have met so far are the most down to earth caring and respectful people we have ever met. There is never judgment. There is never second guessing. If you’re good everyone is good, if you aren’t no one is.

Vanilla- This refers to a friend who does not swing. If someone calls you vanilla then you know they are swingers! More education of swinging to come later in the blogs….

The "Lifestyle" from a wife/mother perspective....

A little background on me before we start this. I am a full time wife, full time mom, full time self employed business owner. I keep house, I cook and I love life to the fullest. I am the everyday woman. I am your friend, I am your neighbor, I am your daughter, I would never be known for who I really was outside my "lifestyle" friends.

Everyone has heard of threesomes and one night stands. Everyone enjoys fantasizing about them but who really does them? I know in my life I have thought about threesomes. Never thought about the girl girl guy combo but always the two guys on one girl one of course. What woman hasn't? Now girls do not lie to yourself. You can sit there and say it but you know, YOU KNOW you have thought about it. What woman would not want 2 or 3 or 4 men wanting nothing at the moment but her. Touching and caressing her all at the same time. Don't lie to yourself. It makes you hot and bothered you know it.
I myself am the steriotypical straight girl. I am girly and I am happily married to my husband of 7 years. I never thought of myself as someone who would ever experiment with girls or others guys for that matter. In my heart I know I love my husband and never had a want or yearn for another person in my life. Why would I? That is something you just DO NOT DO! Once you are married its till death do us part. We don't lie or cheat. We love each other... F-O-R-E-V-E-R! Those who lay with others are sluts, whores, cheats etc....
Now comes a day when your husband bugs you about things such as lesbian encounters and fantasies that he has about you, the love of his life and other women. For years I just blew my husband off. I don't "do" those things. I was raised very Christian, have a strong faith still, my mother never even talked about sex with me until I was 18, I am NOT doing "that". For years I said that until one day when it came up again just about 7 years into our marriage.....

One night my husband and I sat down to watch TV. Off and on throughout our whole relationship we would enjoy watching Playboy TV. They are pretty mild versions of adult entertainment but mostly they have reality TV shows that are super entertaining. The idea of "swinging" came up on one of the shows. Now this was strange. I never really heard about the concept. Basically what it means is that happily married or committed couples get together and have fun together. This fun consists of everything from flirting, touching, kissing, oral sex to full one on one (or ten) sexual intercourse. Learning a little more I started seeing a positive side to this "lifestyle". From now on when I say the lifestyle I am referring to swinging and everyone in the community who swings. It seemed as if all the couples were really committed and in love with each other. At first glance you ask, how so? How could a man love a woman who fucks another woman? Really? He is just a nympho who wants ass versus his wife. Self centered, self-absorbed. Whatever it may be it can't be love? Or can it? The same with woman. They are all lesbians I first told myself.... Wow was I wrong.
We continued to look a little more into the lifestyle. We would watch a specific program on the TV called Swing. They made it look so easy. They spoke about the lifestyle with experienced couples and brought inexperienced couples in the mix so that they could spice up their sex life and explore each other through these encounters. As I watched we would talk about this together. Building up to starting this lifestyle change we really worked on our communication with each other. In the past we have been commended on how great we are together. How well we get along, communication etc.... But this, this was a whole new ballgame. We were not just communicating but we were fantasizing, debating, and pushing the limits with each other to see how far we could go.